Arrange a funeral

Attending a funeral can help a child’s grieving process. Rather than assuming, have an open conversation with your child about the funeral. Explain what to expect and let them decide if they want to attend. Consider enlisting a trusted relative or friend for support if needed. Remember, children can offer comfort to grieving individuals in their unique way.

Coffins have a tapered shape, narrower at the foot and wider at the shoulders, often with a fully removable lid. Caskets are rectangular and usually have a hinged lid, allowing part or all of the deceased to be visible during a viewing. Coffins might be more cost-effective due to simpler interiors and fewer manufacturing components.

Cremations have been on the rise in Australia, surpassing burials. However, preferences vary by location, with urban areas favouring cremations due to crematories being easily accessible, while rural areas lean towards burials. Cultural and religious beliefs also heavily influence people’s decisions.

Embalming replaces bodily fluids with chemical solutions for preservation, infection control, and enhancing the deceased’s presentation. The extent of embalming required varies based on circumstances, family, and cultural preferences.

Following cremation, only the sturdy bones of the deceased remain. These bones are finely crushed to create ‘ashes’ or ‘cremated remains.’

The ashes come in a temporary plastic container. You can also discuss options for a decorative urn with your funeral director.

In cases of unexpected deaths, immediately dial Triple 0 (000). For expected deaths, contact the deceased person’s doctor. Funeral arrangements can only proceed after a doctor’s examination confirms the death.

In Australia, most deaths occur in healthcare or care facilities. These authorities handle necessary procedures and reach out to the next of kin.

A coroner is involved in cases of violent, accidental, unexpected or unusual deaths; deaths occurring under anaesthesia; deaths in custody; or when the cause of death is unknown. The coroner conducts post-mortem examinations to determine the cause.

Following burial or cremation, the funeral director registers the death. Once finalised, the Department of Births, Deaths, and Marriages issues the death certificate.

Usually, the next of kin handles funeral arrangements, including a spouse, child, parent, legal partner, or sibling. In the absence of known relatives, a social worker or another authorised officer will step in.

Most funerals occur within 7-10 days after passing. Professional embalming may be necessary if the funeral cannot occur within this timeframe.

A viewing allows loved ones to spend time with the deceased before the funeral, offering therapeutic benefits during the grieving process.

The funeral director will collaborate with relevant authorities in that country or state to ensure the safe return of your loved one. See repatriation services for more information.

Grief varies for each person. Healing happens gradually and there is no right or wrong way to experience grief.

Offer sincere condolences and consider providing practical help with meal or chores. Simply being present to listen is also very important.

If you’re struggling to move on, and feel you need more help, seek guidance from a bereavement counsellor or grief support services. For urgent help, contact Lifeline’s 24-hour counselling service.